Are you called to be private? Are you living your life in a way that honours that calling? You are either called or not called to live a private life. If you’re like me, you may not have the afforded choice because your purpose and identity requires you to be private in certain areas of your life, in order for you to be fully effective. The bible says:
I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called,
Ephesians 4:1 (NKJV)
3 years ago the LORD said to me, “build in silence” but I didn’t quite grasp what that really meant & based it on warfare because:
- From the womb, the enemy was on my back and was after me such that when I was born I was attacked heavily by people in my life who were involved in witchcraft but God protected me (watch my YouTube video about my Salvation Story for more about this)
- Have had people fast against my plans.
- Have had guys (Jezebels) try to convince me that God told them I’m their wife e.g. a preacher told me this and asked me to pray about it but in my spirit I knew he was delusional and didn’t hear God’s voice. Thanks be to God for protecting my love life against strategic diversions.
- I’ve had acquaintances (and still have 😩🤐) who mask their obsessions and jealousies, with a smile and false care.
- Had friends try to back stab me but thanks be to God who sometimes in His mercy, allows me to see the thoughts of the heart, so as to not be blindsided by smiling mask-wearers.
Then early 2019, when I was pondering about what being private really means in my day to day life, the Holy Spirit immediately answered me with a vivid vision of what happens when I share my private life with others. He showed me people gathered in the living room, some sitting on the sofas, some standing, some couldn’t even fit because the room was crowded as they all faced and looked at me; I was shocked! He said, “you have invited them all.” They all come inside your house when you share your life. I had to ask myself, am I prepared to invite everyone in my house concerning A, B or C? From then on, it was imperative for me to learn from Christ, the art of being Private. Then, a few months later my Pastor started a series titled “the art of following” and I chuckled within 🙊🙈 on that Sunday because the LORD had been teaching me about the art of being private and it was His way of confirming what He had told me! You see, there are moments I want to share the happiest private moments of my love life 🥰, my new breakthroughs, my plans for 2020, my future goals but then I remember, is it necessary, what is my motive, what is the purpose? Am I seeking man’s applause?
This is an encouragement to somebody reading this and you struggle with being private or you seek man’s applause as you hide behind the things you share with people. You see, depending on who you are, there’s a price to pay for your identity, for an anointing, your destiny, blessings or life calling. Does this make you extra special? No, it just means you need more grace/wisdom, just like the eyes need a different level of grace compared to a mouth; all are equally important but their functions require different levels of power & wisdom for total effectiveness. For 2020 and beyond, if you are called to be private, take it seriously by being wise and being vigilant!
In His Service
Dephne
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31 comments on “Being Private Is A Calling”
Jen
PRAISE GOD! At the end of last year God told me to delete all my Social Media, I was confused because as an artist I believed it was one of the most important things I needed to succeed, I praise God for giving me the grace to trust & comply, because the revelations I have had since then are mind blowing! Privacy is essential for success in life! So many monitoring spirits & witchcraft on social media we must be very careful WHAT WE POST!
I even stopped telling my mother things because she would either manipulate Gods instructions to me for her benefit or tell her friends who are clearly my enemy! Learn to lead a quiet life saints it is truly rewarding!
Kina
Wooow ! As an artist, i’m struggling with social media because i hate that and at the same time, i thought i needed it or for exposure 😧 but now i’m not sure because i can’t even post now, my Heart IS heavy when i log in to instagram….
Mia
Amen! I’ve been feeling a Spirit of being private for YEARS! God bless you for sharing this is confirmation. AMEN!
Alison
In the past 7 1/2 years, I have learned the hard way what the consequences are of telling people what God has shown me about my future. I am now in a place of consecration and isolation for the sake of a call I have on my life and I have more peace than I had before when I had more people around me.
Tiffany Isaza
This was an answer to prayer. I actually had the same dream 6 months ago. God is so faithful. Its gotten so crucial I asked God this morning to make it so clear I can’t miss it. Amen.
DOREEN
Hello Dephne. I had a dream concerning a BAY LEAF.What is the spiritual meaning of a bay leaf? kindly PLEASE reply.thank you.
Noname007butblessed
I know I’ve been gifted with privacy. I fight fiercely for this gift. We live in a world that overshares. I want no parts of it. Others think privacy is strange. I honor and value my privacy. It’s essentially mine.
Anonymous
This is so perfect! I struggle with being private but every time I open up it’s like a major disappointment and then I resent not following my gut reaction to begin with. The holy spirit is showing me to break this cycle in my life. It’s so interesting you talked about everyone being in your room. I had a similar experience/vision where I saw that I was the one responsible for inviting everyone in my inner chambers. This place is reserved for an intimate and holy relationship with God but I defiled it by oversharing and saying too much to people I thought I was ok to share with because of their “spiritual maturity” but the sin was not with them…it was with me opening the doors of the chamber. I did it in ignorance and asked for forgiveness once I realized what I done. I thank God for his forgiving love and his redeeming love. It’s like being in a new found relationship and I’m grateful.
How did you deal with the spirit of Jezebel? I find the spirit of Jezebel (male & female) as a stronghold that keeps popping up. It’s like it doesn’t want me to have an identity of my own. The spirit acts as if I need permission from it to have a relationship with the Lord in Christ. If you have any feedback, I would greatly appreciate it.
Oia
I have same question,..
Q. Perry
Wonderful and timely post! How does a person discern whether they have been called to a life of privacy?
Madlen
Could it be possible that the very thing God laid on my heart does not come to pass cause I told it some people? What can I do now?
CJ
God bless you Dephne! Thank you for sharing this.
Krystle
Thank you for your obedience in posting this message Dephne. This message really speaks to me. I notice that when I share my plans they tend to not work out. Now I understand part of my calling is to be private and go thru life with the Lord. I gain so much wisdom from the Lord when I’m private. Lord give us the wisdom, discernment, courage, discipline, peace, love and joy to live privately as you have called us to. In Jesus name I pray Amen.
Anonymous
Thank you for this. I have been struggling with this. Thanks for the timely reminder.
Krystle
Thank you for your obedience in posting this message Dephne. This message really speaks to me. I notice that when I share my plans they tend to not work out. Now I understand part of my calling is to be private and go thru life with the Lord. I gain so much wisdom from the Lord when I’m private. Lord give us the wisdom and discernment to live privately as you have called us to. In Jesus name I pray Amen.
Mamzelle
Thank you so much for sharing this, much of your life sounds like you were writing about me. I was in the art of sharing every joyful breakthrough, plans, goals ideas etc. About a month ago, i began to feel very unconfortable with most of the people in my life including family members. All of my life, i realized that each time i shared something before doing it, it never worked out but each time i kept my mouth closed, things would work out so easily. Did miss learn the lesson? Something yes and no! Last month, while praying with a Friend, thé Holy Spirit spoke to me clearly through her mouth. He said ” stop telling stuff to people, that is how they get to attack you bcos you are always opening up to them”. And i went ,” wooo🙆. Later on ,i went into prayer by myself and asked God to show me all the fake or false friends in my life. He did for 3 straight nights,then i began to delete them from my phone and life without any hésitation. Your article came as a reminder and confirmation again as i almost forgot that being private was an instruction to me from the Holy Spirit. God bless you !😘😘😘
Fuchs
What can I do when I shared to much with people. Life calling, Dreams…?
Manuella
The lord is speaking to me. Please can you make a video on how you walked into privacy. Please sis God bless you. I really need to learn.
Shakeeta Torres
So true I too had to learn to operate and be silent. I only share parts that are necessary. About 4 years ago God told me that I wouldn’t have friends like that due to jealousy. It was so hard because I like fellowship but he opened my eyes and I began to see clearly. I have 2 best friends. My hubby and sister in Christ she lives out of state. It’s not about quantity but quality.
OIA
Yes this is true. Thank you for the encouragement, being private can be scary at times, there is a fear of isolation/lonliness. Its also a challenge for those of us whom have the art of speaking..lol, very challenging! Thank you Father for leading us to green pastures!
GJ
THIS BLOG IS A RIGHT ON TIME REAL WORD FOR ME IN DUE SEASON. I LIKE TO SOCIALIZE WITH OTHERS AND I AM NOT 9N SOCIAL MEDIAS SO AS I’VE MATURED OVER THESE LAST 4 YEAR’S IN GOD’S WORD WISDOM AND OBEDIENCE I’VE BECOME UNSATISFIED WHEN I’M OUT WITH OTHER’S WHOM IT FEELS AS I’VE OUT GROWN… I DON’T WANT TO JUDGE BECAUSE WHOM AM I TO DO SO… BUT IT’S A FEELING I KNOW IN MY SPIRIT MAN TO BE TRUE. SO AFTER GOD ALLOWED A CLOSE MALE FRIEND TO MOVE AWAY TO ANOTHER STATE, FOR ME TO RELOCATE TO ANOTHER CHURCH, AND TWO CLOSE FRIENDS TO BE REVEALED TO ME I FIND MYSELF ALONE MOST TIMES. READING PRAYING CRYING SINGING SONGS TO THE LORD AND ASKING WHY ME?. NOW I HAVE A CLEARER UNDERSTANDING AND ALSO KNOW TO KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT ABOUT WHAT HE’S DOING IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW AS WELL. SO PRAISE GOD. ITS GOOD TO BE FREE!
Amber Hudson
God is teaching me, as I learn, I watch, listen n wait on God, I’ve always stayed 2 myslf n I’ve been quiet 4 so long, itz hard n u jus want shout out 2 da roof top wat God is doing, so “yes” I can admit 2 be easy can be a challenge, cuz He taught me if I dnt listen, n do thingz prematurely n it won’t be ryt!
Ashley
Thanks for sharing because I want to share what God’s been showing me in my spirit to love ones, but some speak negative towards it and now I see why.
DeMaine Jones
Thank you for loving Me!!!🌞
-Angel of Thee Lord
Amen El Ra
Anonymous
Amen
Lisa
Confirmation. Everything I have been hearing lately is about keeping my mouth closed, and not sharing my goals and plans because the very person or persons are not for you! Thank you Sister Dephne.
Reisha Jordan
Thank you so much for sharing. I have a tendency to share my business with my love ones, whether it’s about a new career or a goal or an idea. Just because I am excited and feel they will be happy for me. And then it never fails it seems that the moment I share, the thing I shared doesn’t come through for whatever reason. And I have always felt something inside me say hush don’t say anything yet. Wow.
Ronah
Thank you for this message
Ronah
Thanks for this message. It came to me in good timing.
Shanelle
Yes, I am learning to stop talking so much. Move quietly and only answer my phone if its an emergency. Truly trusting God to guide me, so im good.
Maurissa
God bless you!!!!!