They may also use flatter in the form of buying you gifts and presents. This is a form of psychological manipulation and is very common in toxic relationships.
Breaking Soul Ties : the deliverance manual
As we manoeuvre our way through life, we will come across many types of people. We will make connections with different kinds of people, some to advance us closer to our life’s purpose and others to divert us from our life’s purposes and destinies. Unfortunately, in one way or another, each person will encounter a toxic person in their lifetime and it’s important to know how to keep such people far from your inner circle; places they can influence you.
So you have discovered you have a very toxic friend or even relationship? What do you do next? Usually, when it comes to cutting off connections
with such friends and acquaintances, it can be difficult to do so especially if the person is manipulative. Some toxic acquaintances will try worming their way back into your life again after deceiving you or hurting you through these 3 type of ways:-
Guilt
They will ask for undeniable help, cry bitterly or even threaten to harm themselves if you leave them or stop talking to them.
Lies
They will form up blatant lies and made-up stories to keep you in their sphere of influence. Always check the authenticity of the information you receive from them. This is especially vital after you have expressed to them how toxic they are in your life or how you want to end the friendship. Indeed, after this point, there’s a huge probability that they will say anything to keep you in their life.
Flattery
They will overly compliment you or say and do things that remind you of the good things they have done for you. They may also use flatter in the form of buying you gifts and presents. This is a form of psychological manipulation and is very common in toxic relationships. It is designed to bring doubt and confusion, so that you don’t execute your plan of cutting them off from your life.
When you see evidence of this, it shows you that you are possibly being manipulated. You will need to pray that the Lord gives you strength. You need strength to remove these people from influencing you and your life, especially if you will still see them every day. Then lastly, we will look at a list of stepping stones you can use to cut off ties with this person.
Prayer
Lord God Almighty, true strength and grace comes from You alone. Without Your strength and grace Lord, I can do nothing! You gave Your servant Paul the Apostle, grace to endure a thorn in the flesh. Lord I also am asking for grace, wisdom and strength today. Particularly, to move away from things and people who are inflicting the plans and purposes that You set for me. Lord shift me away by your power from strange people, from every Lot in my life, from leeches and every person the devil has put in my life to destroy me through a soul tie with them. My Master, I ask that You bring good friends and connections that will influence the calling and purpose You placed upon me for Your glory. Lord Jesus, provide for me people who will help me to glorify You in truth! This I pray in Your name Jesus Christ. Amen.
Plan of Action
Withholding information
Cut off communication in the form of withholding any information about what’s going on in your life. Withholding information about what you are about to do business wise, relationship wise or generally. Do not release any information to the person because they are a destiny blocker and are being used by the devil to manipulate your progress through their jealousy, insecurity, possessiveness or envy. Please note, this may mean you have to also withhold information on social media platforms because it’s likely such people will stalk you on social media.
Ending the relationship or friendship
Cut them off from your life completely (if possible). Please use wisdom if you do this, as you may need to tell them beforehand that you no longer wish to be friends with them or have them in your life. In other detrimental cases, you will need to catch them off guard and just cut them off from your life without warning. This is what Jacob did to his father- in-law Laban, although this was deceptive on Jacob’s part (read Genesis 31:1- 21). Use wisdom and be led by the Holy Spirit. Therefore, if you decide to cut them off completely, this may mean you have to change phone numbers, block their number, delete them from social media and avoid being in the same places as them etc.
It’s fundamental that whatever step you decide to take, that you are consistent and confident enough to not look back by giving into the temptation of allowing this toxic connection back into your life… This blog-post is an excerpt taken from the book: BREAKING SOUL TIES – The Deliverance Manual (see details below)
4 comments on “Cutting Off Toxic Friendships & Relationships”
Gabi
I love this! Please send prayers on breaking a relationship with a Jezebel sprit friend who is threaded in my work/neighborhood and has children in my kids school and daycare.
Mo
What happened to the blog about 5 things you learned from your relationship? It was so good and I came back to reference it. If you don’t repost it can you email it to me please?
Saraah
Now, this is something amazing. Thank you!
Sometimes, we can be in a relationship for so long we stop seeing how unhealthy it really is until someone points it out.
And even then, we try to make excuses. we try to ignore it. We try to pretend it’s all okay. But deep down we find ourselves struggling with that sinking feeling: How did I end up here? and that’s the signal which tells us
Narola Jmr
Prayer fr my broken relationships