It’s possible to keep yourselves pure for marriage even when you both love each other deeply. I want to share with you 3 Truths we’ve learnt in keeping ourselves pure, in our journey with my beloved, as well as my own personal walk with the LORD.
The GRACE of God
God’s enabling power (grace) will keep a couple pure pre-marriage & during marriage. God can give grace (power) to keep a couple pure, however, they must be willing to receive this grace and work with Him. This grace makes helps the couple to respect each other’s bodies and reserve themselves for marriage. This same grace works in marriage to keep their bodies in the sole custody of the spouse, trusting the spouse alone with their body and full mind. The bible introduces us to this enabling power (grace) in this account in Genesis 20:4-6;
But God came to Abimelech in a dream by night, and said to him, “Indeed you are a dead man because of the woman whom you have taken, for she is a man’s wife.” But Abimelech had not come near her; and he said, “Lord, will You slay a righteous nation also? Did he not say to me, ‘She is my sister’? And she, even she herself said, ‘He is my brother.’ In the integrity of my heart and innocence of my hands I have done this.” And God said to him in a dream, “Yes, I know that you did this in the integrity of your heart. For I also withheld you from sinning against Me; therefore I did not let you touch her.
The FRUIT of SELF CONTROL
This will help you in the times when he/she is looking like a piece of chocolate cake or looking like a delicious snack (hahaa), even when your thoughts are out of place. Self control helps you to not say certain things e.g. sexually stimulating conversations. It also helps you to not act on certain thoughts and not engage in certain actions. However, the couple must practice self control individually for things to be easier. If one practices self control and the other one doesn’t, this will be challenging in their pre-marital relationship and even after the wedding because the couple don’t have one mind. Self control is important before and after the wedding and couples ought to practice this together.
Now, the fruit of self control grows according to the level of your obedience to God’s Word. May I emphasis that knowing the scriptures and obeying (abiding in) the scriptures are two different things. The more you abide in God’s Word, the more fruitful you will be. Growth comes in not only learning but in doing what you have learnt.
The FEAR OF THE LORD
This is a reverence for God and His Word. The fear of the LORD will keep you from falling into temptations or being in tempting situations. The fear of the LORD is a reservoir of godly wisdom & counsel. When u have the fear of the LORD, the things the two of you do & say when no one is watching will be pleasing to God. This is because you don’t want to sin against God, so you are aware of His presence even in private & seek to please God more than pleasing yourself or each other. It’s written in Proverbs 9:10 (AMP);
The [reverent] fear of the Lord [that is, worshiping Him and regarding Him as truly awesome] is the beginning and the preeminent part of wisdom [its starting point and its essence], And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding and spiritual insight.
CONCLUSION
My advice for unmarried couples who desire to keep themselves pure for marriage is, ask God for grace (power). Ask Him for His grace to keep you from sinning against Him through fornication or engaging in intimate acts that lead to fornication. Remember, just because you are not having actually having sex doesn’t mean that it’s right to do things that lead to sex. It’s written in 2 Timothy 2:22;
Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.
Lastly, grow in your faith in God through studying God’s Word, in order to grow in godly wisdom, which in turn grows the fear of the LORD in you. Grow so that the fruit of the Spirit can also grow in you such that you become like a large bearing tree that is firmly rooted in the ground of the Word of GOD. May God bless you and your future upcoming nuptials!
In His Service
Dephne
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3 comments on “STAYING PURE FOR MARRIAGE When You Deeply Love Each Other”
Christina_Kohler
STAYING PURE FOR MARRIAGE When You Deeply Love Each Other: Is it possible to maintain purity in a relationship when you have strong feelings for each other? How can couples navigate the challenges of physical intimacy while still honoring their commitment to wait until marriage?
Sophia
I was in a toxic relationship with a non Christian that needed sex,I had to get out because I value myself and my Christian Life,now am keeping myself pure for my future husband,I love your teachings they are inspirational to me
Josephina
thank you woman of God for your word of wisdom. i’m trusting God for a spouse and i believe i’m in the season of preparation for my spouse. i prayfor God’s guidence in everything cocerning marriage and meeting my destiny husband.