THE DANGERS OF PREMARITAL SEX

29 May 2018 Faith

(parts of this blog post were taken from my book “Breaking Soul Ties“)

And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the Lord.
– Genesis 4:1 (KJV)

When God first announced His plan for Adam needing a wife to help him, we didn’t really see all the angles of this help. Here we get a glimpse of this help in Genesis 4:1. This help Adam needed is revealed to us in this case as sexual intimacy. Intimacy in their marriage is described as Adam knowing his wife. Ponder on how powerful these words are. Adam was married to Eve but it’s not until they had sex, that Adam knew his wife and Eve was known by her husband!

The Power of Sex
When a man was sexually intimate (had sex) with his wife within God’s will, the bible often described this as “the man knowing his wife” (see examples here). One of the purposes that God created sex for marriage was for the man to discover his wife and for the wife to be discovered by her husband! The Hebrew word used in Genesis 4:1 for “knew” is YADA, which means known, knowledge, perceive, understand, tell, acknowledge, acquaintance, teach, consider.

When sex is enjoyed within the realm of a healthy marriage, between a man and his wife, sex can open incredible doors of blessings whereby the husband and his wife grow in their capacity and ability of knowing, perceiving, understanding, telling (transparency), acknowledging, acquainting with, teaching and considering each other! This is what YADA means! The husband and wife have access to tap into the blessing of YADA within their marriage! Dear reader, can you see how powerful sex is within the right context; within marriage? Please understand that the blessing of “a man knowing his wife” only applies within marriage because sex outside marriage cannot have access to this blessing, in fact, sex outside marriage does the opposite of YADA!

The Disadvantages and Dangers of Sex Outside Marriage
Dear reader, the devil knows the blessings that come with being in the centre of God’s will concerning sex and marriage, that’s why he has distorted and subverted sex from the days of Eden and even today. He gets you to think that testing the car before marriage is vital and will make you more compatible. How deceitful, naive and foolish to undermine God’s ways! God designed sex in such a way that when the you are engaging in it, your brain releases hormones called oxytocin and vasopressin; amoung others. These hormones function for the convenience of bonding you together. Unfortunately, whether you are having a one night stand, a fling or are with your spouse, these hormones are not selective and so, they will be released.
What happens with engaging in sex outside marriage is that, when it comes to finally getting married, you will discover that the ability to bond emotionally, physically, sexually or mentally to your life-long marriage partner might be weakened or be somewhat damaged due to formerly bonding sexually with other women or men. However, the power and grace of God can restore you.

Furthermore, when you bond to different kinds of people whom you have not made the commitment of marriage with, besides the health risk, this likely causes emotional and psychological imbalances which manifest themselves in the way you think and behave. For example, feelings of emptiness, emotional insecurities, bursts of anger, misery, jealousy, impulsiveness, anxiety, depression and even substance abuse.
For this reason, it is foolish to try to outsmart God by engaging in sex outside marriage, since you will eventually fail miserably; psychologically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. It’s the kind of sex that leaves you depressed and in need of more sex in order for those “feel good” hormones to be released so that you can forget about the miserable feelings of doubt, emptiness, shame, confusion, paranoia and distress that have taken over your mind.
Does this sound familiar? Are you in this predicament? You need more sex to forget your troubles? Dear reader, clearly sex is not the long term solution to these problems. You are having these feelings because you are becoming one with the wrong person(s).

Prayer
The enemy will try to get you to sleep around with people before marriage so that your chances of knowing your wife or being known as a wife are distorted. Sex was intended for marriage, to bring a deeper knowledge & understanding between husband and wife that can never be experienced with any other human being! Instead, now couples get into marriage with hurts, identity issues, scars and wounds from sex outside marriage! Is that you today? You are scarred? Hurt? Confused because of fornication? The grace of God is available to restore you today! Firstly, Confess your sins of fornication or any sexual activities you have engaged in and Repent today by choosing to no longer do those things again. The power of God is available to restore you from every man who broke into you! To restore you from every identity of a woman you discovered outside marriage. SAY THIS PRAYER:

“LORD Jesus restore me emotionally by the power of Your Spirit, as you did spiritually at the Cross, that i may be known by my husband/that i may know my wife, without limitations but in all truth & in holiness and beauty as You intended for marriage from the beginning. LORD Jesus deliver me from the power of sexual immortality (insert the things that are sexually immoral you have been doing e.g. masturbation, fornication, sexual activities or watching pornography etc). Deliver me from sexually tormenting spirits because my body belongs to You LORD JESUS (include your wife’s or husband’s name if you’re married) deliver me from anything else or anyone else whom my body had been joined to because sexual immorality. This I pray in Your Name Jesus and I receive Your restoration right now by faith, in Your Jesus Name. Amen.

In His Service
Dephne